If you have ever walked out of a meeting questioning your memory, your judgment, or even your value, you are not alone. You might be experiencing gaslighting or passive-aggressive behavior at work.

Gaslighting is designed to destabilize a target until they can’t discern between reality and unreality. Here’s a quick example: You find out that you missed an important meeting and feel mortified.

When we examine workplace bullying in an extreme form, namely the punitive treatment of LGBT military personnel over the decades, targets of less systemic workplace abuse can gain valuable insights.